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July 7, 2012 at 8:00 am

10 Ways Women Can Wreck Their Marriage

If some of you ladies want to know how you can suck the life out of your marriage and drive your good husband to insanity, or to the bar, or into the arms of another woman, or to a divorce attorney, or just shrivel him up into a conquered quail who inwardly loathes you as he dies a slow, emotionally tortuous death, well then . . . this is your lucky day.

 
 
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  • 32 years down the drain

    WOW – this is EXACTLY what drove me to file for divorce after 32 Years… from my HUSBAND!!
    goes both ways ya know

  • Manbooks7

    Marriage is God’s design for man. I am sorry you found it so disappointing. Life is not all about you. We are here to Glorify God and enjoy Him forever. 

    • ort

      Manboobs: STUFF IT. Oh, and you might want to try Islam. Seems more your speed.

      • vanguard7

        Sounds to me Ort like you would just love to be in a relationship with a Muslim.  At least after reading all your posts to date.  You’d just love to be subjected to total slavery and humiliation wouldn’t you?  No freedom, total lack of respect by your man, always subservient to his wants, desires, and needs.  Respect is something that is a two-way street in any relationship but apparently you can’t grasp that concept.  At least the bible teaches mutual respect and tolerance for other unlike the Quran and the satanic subjects that abide by it (the Quran to be perfectly clear here).

        • ort

          Vanguard: you can stuff it, too.

          • vanguard7

            I’d say follow your own advice but apparently you’ve already done that and done it so much it has impacted with your tiny little brain up there and impaired you ability to reason or think an original thought.

          • vanguard7

            Furthermore, I’d say “bite me” but I’m afraid the “hoof in mouth” disease you’re no doubt suffering from might be  contagious.  And I have no doubt you’d try to bite me if I told you to.

      • Native Texan

        First point my clueless freind, the name being used is MANBOOKS7 and not MANBOOBS.

        You should work for the Nobama administration because the stretch you had to employ in order to make a connection to Islam was up to par with their method of spinning everything to match a warped point of view.

        • vanguard7

          Totally agree.  I think Ort is from some other planet.  Perhaps from Mort?  Anyway, she goes off in tirades when there’s no warranting or just because someone dares offer up an opposite perspective to her rantings.  She’s obviously been damaged and can’t possibly conceive of the notion that perhaps she could at least be partially wrong.  Sounds like my ex.  One of the tells I discovered about her after a few years of marriage was anytime she couldn’t give an honest answer to a question she would turn the question around and say “how dare you ask me a question like that.  I’m so offended.”  It was her way of getting one off the subject and on the defensive while feeling guilty.  Once I caught on I didn’t let her get away with it anymore but I digress.  My guess Ort is some dyke still living in her parents basement because she can’t make a life for herself and thus blames every but herself for not getting anywhere.

    • Ladypatriot

       Huh?  What is your message?  I honestly don’t get what you are trying to convey.  I get the part about we are here to glorify God, but who are you talking to and what is the message?  I hope you mean that marriage is God’s design for “mankind”, meaning man and woman…..each needs the other….!

  • VES

    Good grief my ex must of had this list because this was his exact behavior towards me???? Hmmm???
    Oh Well!!…..that’s why he’s my ex!!

    • ort

      VES: Amen.

  • C Mentele03

    He missed one. How about the go-to emotion about anything, big or small, is ANGER.

  • ort

    To the video poster: here is how men ruin a marriage:

    1) keep saying you will do or fix something, then never EVER follow through. Don’t ever keep your word, and be a dishonorable man.

    2) treat your wife as if her sole purpose is to be a servant who is constantly picking up after you. Don’t lift a finger to help her.

    3) secretly watch porn, ogling and lusting after other women all the while breaking your marriage vows left and right with absolutely no regard to anything but your selfish lusts.

    How ya like it now?

    • vanguard7

      Here are some ways women ruin their marriages:

      1) Berate the husband after he does something around the house like fixing or improving something by saying he is so slow and too much of a perfectionist or saying you could have done it better and faster.

      2) Treat your husband like his sole purpose is to make sure you never overdraw your checking account by making sure he makes more money than you can spend or putting 90% of raising “your” kids on “his” shoulders or constantly contradiciting him in word and action when it comes to setting limits on the children’s activities or trying to instill some good work ethics in them (i.e. teach them the value of money and encourage them to exercise while working odd jobs around the neighborhood to earn some spending cash for themselves).  And for God’s sake, learn the basic concepts about checking accounts such as what it means to balance (reconcile) your account, understanding what an “outstanding” check is and the process by which the bank makes money off you everytime you overdraw your account.

      3) Sleeping with other guys while the husband is deployed, getting pregnant and then an abortion in an effort to hide your unfaithfulness from your husband, going out for drinks and dinner with a male coworker after work while not telling the husband where you are and he, in the meantime, has already prepared a fancy dinner from scratch like Beef Stroganoff or home-made spaghetti all the while dealing with starving kids waiting for you to get home so the family can have that sit down family dinner experience/quality family time.

      4)  Oh, and here’s another.  Coming for a weekend visit while dating only to get upset over a cat taking a leak on your purse then running out saying “it will never work, your cat hates me” then taking off in your car for home and abandoning your kids with your boyfriend.  In hindsight, that should have been my first clue but no, I listened to my heart and persisted in the relationship. 

      5)  Finally, lying about your beliefs and morals while dating only to “snag” a husband and sugar daddy for you and your kids.  I was raised with old-fashioned morals and beliefs such as two people don’t get married unless they know they want to spend the rest of their lives together and are willing and realize that all marriages take work and compromise to work.  They take their wedding vows as serious as a heart attack.  I never had ANY problem staying faithful to her and never even entertained any thought of being untrue to her although I had several opportunities if I would have thrown my set of morals and beliefs out the window and just gone with the flow or moment.  And another thing, why is it that once a man has a wedding band on his finger he is suddenly getting all kinds of attention and come-ons by women in social settings when the wife isn’t around. It seems to me that if women didn’t see men as “fair game” once they get that symbol of commitment on their finger there wouldn’t be near as many divorces or cases of men cheating on their wives. So you women have to look no further than the nearest mirror in most cases to try to figure what makes a man unfaithful. And believe me….as a man who understands the typical male perspective in this regard….in most cases, once a man notices a ring (whether it’s an engagement ring or actual wedding band) on that particular finger of a woman, he doesn’t pursue any kind of relationship. Women don’t do that. Instead, they seem to take it as a challenge to see if they can make a man break his vows.

      So now the question comes back to you……”How ya like it now?”  It works both ways!  I will concede that a lot of men are cads but just because they are doesn’t mean they have the corner on the market.  There are just as many women (perhaps more I’m beginning to believe lately) out there who are just as bad.

      • ort

        Vanguard: Since I have NEVER done a single thing on your list, and don’t plan to, we come to the crux of the argument…….WHERE IN THE HOLY HELL DO YOU FIND YOUR WOMEN???
        And once you find them, WHY ARE YOU WITH THEM?????
        You really need to make better informed choices. That rests solely on you.

        And second, I never said it doesn’t work both ways. I was replying to the frat boy video poster with the obnoxious personality. He MIGHT have gotten his point across if he wasn’t so irritating and insulting. You catch more bees with honey.

        • vanguard7

          Your reply inferred that it is all and always the man’s fault for failed marriages and that women can do no harm.  I was simply providing the other side of each of your coins (points) you posed.  Did I strike a bad chord or something?  As for where I find my women, I have always tried to keep an open mind whenever I meet some gal that interests me and have tried to give them the benefit of the doubt and only become skeptical if they give me a reason to do otherwise.  One thing I will do in the future, if I should ever consider getting into a committed relationship to the point of marriage, is to do a complete background check on the woman.  If I had done that with the “ex” I would have found out that she had filed for bankruptcy as a result of her first marriage but, in five years of marriage, never thought it prudent as something I might find a need to know.  That little fact also slipped out in the first hearing before the judge when he made it a requirement that we file for bankruptcy before proceeding any further with the divorce.  Also, after five years of marriage, I learned that nothing was beneath her if she wanted something bad enough.  Such as prodding their kids (when they were only 5 and 7 years old) to say their father and his girlfriend and her 17 year old kid were sexually abusing them on their visits (which subsequently turned out not to be true) if he didn’t agree to “her” terms for their divorce.  Otherwise he would be labeled a sexual offender and pedophile.  She also set him up to make it look like he was having an affair behind her back when in fact he wasn’t by telling him his co-worker’s alarm clock had broken and needed him to wake her up at 5 a.m.   In the meantime, her boyfriend (she was actually the one doing the cheating) sat outside the co-workers house in the bushes with a camera and telephoto lens clicking photos of him at her door with her that were made to look incriminating. 

          All I’m saying, sometimes we meet people who are not at all what they present themselves to be and we get duped big time.  My ex turned out to be a manipulating, scheming and psycopathic lying b***h who didn’t have a clue what honesty meant.  Unfortunately she was so good at it that it took a divorce to finally uncover all the skeletons in her closet.  And YES!  It does bother me to use the “B” word when describing any woman (as well as any other derogatory term) but in this case it’s the nicest term I could use that fits her.

          As far as just how good she was at lying? She even managed to fool the U.S. gov’t but, as a result of her attempts to destroy me in an effort to get what she wanted out of the divorce, the truth about her eventually came out. She ended up losing a great job and has been barred from ever working for the gov’t and from ever entering a Federal installation such as a military base. So I wasn’t the only one duped by her and I’m sure I won’t be the last. And her boyfriend at the time also had to break any and all ties with her else he put his job and clearance at risk too.

          • ort

            Vanguard: not my problem if you want to go off on a tangent because you think (wrongly) what I inferred.

  • Michaellaborde

    So women commenters:   It works both ways doesn’t it?

    • wearyconservative1946

      I am a woman and it’s clear to me that most of the female posters here aren’t likely to ever know a minute’s peace or happiness within marriage…..and a dead certainty that the men invloved NEVER will. 

  • Evermyrtle

    I don’t know a lot about women wrecking their marriage, but if I had been married someone like my  daddy, one of us would hve had to move. He was mean and accused my mom of the same things that were in him, and she quietly took it. All it took to set him off he would have a dream. He’d wake up raving about how she had smiled when she greeted the pastor an his family when they visited. I don’t think it would have broken our marriage, I would have likely broken his neck.
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    Then is the habit of consuming booze which one husband, that I knew very well, who didn’t have the money to buy clothing and food for his children.

    And then the skirt chasing, I would not have slept with any man that slept with half of the women in the town.

    And then there is the one who the wife works beside him all day but at the end of the day the woman still has work to do “that is not a man’s work!” He won’t lift a finger.

    Next there is the one that makes no matter what the wife does it is not quite right or quite enough, she was quite “stupid!”.

    Now I have a few more gripes up my sleeve but this is enough for now.
     

  • ca1

    funny:)

  • ca1

    to all of you women who are complaining… if there are no kids involved… then move on… if you brought kids into your “unhappy” life… then suck it up and learn how to do those home repairs and make your life and theirs.. HAPPY… or as happy as you can make it..(without trash talking their FATHER)…. it’s all within your power… accept responsibility for your unhappy life and make it not ALL ABOUT YOU…….(btw, i’m a long time married woman who chooses to see the glass half full…plus my husband is an awesome person)

  • vanguard7

    He never mentioned sleeping with a co-worker for a year while the husband was deployed the whole time or not paying any bills (mortgage, car payments, insurance payments, credit card payments, etc.) except the very basic utilities to avoid them being shut off while draining all bank accounts completely and hiding the money for the last 3 months before he got home from his remote tour.  I could’ve tried to live with all of that but then I found she had also gotten an abortion 3 months before I got home because she didn’t know if the baby was going to be black or white (there “was” a possibility it could have been mine since I was home for a month at the half-way point of my tour).  The abortion and then trying to hide the fact from me was the straw that broke the proverbial camel’s back.

    • catnip24

       i know just how you feel. what a filthy, nasty, piece of crap which. there are plenty more of these  witches out there. i’ve come to realize all women are psycho. it just varies in degree.

      • vanguard7

        Well the only “saving grace” about the whole thing was the judge in the divorce saw through her “gameplan” and didn’t award her one red cent.  She slipped in the proceedings when he said she didn’t deserve anything and she replied “the only reason I married him was because, under Colorado law, once two people are married for 5 yrs the wife is entitled to half of everything.”  The separation took place at the 5 year 3 month mark.  Finally, she got schooled by the judge in the fact that, in Colorado, the “law” as she understood it did not entitle the female to half of the husband’s worth (present and future) and that the judge always had final say.  He did go on to say that “granted, in most cases, that seems to be the way it works out in Colorado but it is not law as she seemed to think.”  All I know is it took til I was 39 to find what I thought was the perfect gal before I got married and after my experience with her, and others before her, I have lost all faith in women.  I firmly believe they are like you say….either psycho (bipolar), gold diggers, or have just too much baggage that they can’t let go of.  It’s funny, I’ve seen so many women’s profiles on dating sites that say about the man “must have left their baggage at the door or behind them” or something to that effect but it doesn’t seem to work both ways in their worlds.  I’ve learned my lesson…..the only wife I have now (or will ever have again) consists of two wheels and a motor.  At least it’s always ready for a good time and it’s a heck of a lot cheaper maintenance wise.

      • ort

        catnip24: . Maybe the problem is you, ever think of that? Maybe your personality is so grating, so annoying, and you are so selfish and take women for granted, that you decided that the women MUST be the problem because it couldn’t POSSIBLY be you. Yeah, that’s the ticket. The women are psycho. Never mind that you can’t have a decent relationship. It must be the fault of the woman. Yep.  Idiot.

  • Jstc2002

    This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen.  It’s right-on and I’m certainly glad that I watched it.  Any of the feminist comments here against it merely emphasize how deeply and surely it hit home.

    • ort

      Jstc2002:  And you are yet another pathetic moron who thinks that all the ills in a marriage fall on the woman’s shoulders. Take a look in the mirror more often. It cuts both ways.

      • Burtb0

        Here is what I don’t understand.
        You say , Ort, you are “just saying it cuts both ways”, then you say the video is moronic.

        It would seem to me that if either partner of a marriage did what Mr. Giles (who is not a pathetic moron) complains about, that would drive the other partner away.

        Many of the issues could be applicable to both sexes.
        And unfortunately, giving someone the benefit of the doubt is good policy for dating, but a prospective mate needs to be built on a stronger foundation. If you mate was married before, spend the $500-800 and have a professional investigator give you a preliminary background report. Then, if you still want to marry this person, destroy the file. And, never share the fact that you did your due diligence.

        Talk about what you want out of marriage in the next 20 years. Before, not after the wedding vows. It is better to stop a marriage, and pay the wedding venue a fee for canceling , than trying to go along with the schedule without resolving the issues because of a deadline.
        If you discover that your goals and theirs are very different, get out or get counseling before marriage to negotiate this basic difference of opinion.

        Communicate your frustration to your partner, before you head to a divorce lawyer. Describe the issues in a “when you do this, it makes me feel like this” or When you say this it makes me feel like this”. Never accuse. Never tell your partner what their motives are. Describe what actions they took that caused your response. Ask them to go to a third party with you to help the relationship develop better communication strategies, if necessary.

        Men, help your woman feel cherished.
        Women, help your man feel respected.

        Remember, in a marriage, it is supposed to be us against the world. Act like partners. Help each other. And because you can not see all the things she does in your marriage, give 60%, not 50%.

  • Voice Of Reason

    My Ex did all of those.  I should have divorced her years before I did.

  • Anniem

    Wow….I’m dumbstruck by this Neanderthal railing…just…wow….

  • Burtb0

    Great.
    I can hardly wait for the “things Men do” video.

 
 

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